Well, I’d be biased to think that the community of Geminis is the most consistently in tune with what their spirit is telling them to do or why they have breath in their lungs.
It’s important to point out gender disparities, but repeated laments about the dearth of women in the industry tend to reinforce the belief that there are no women, rendering invisible the women who are doing this work. “The numbers are low, but they’re not zero,” says Natalia Oberti Noguera, founder and chief executive of the Pipeline Fellowship, a program that trains women to become tech investors. “As much as we need to increase diversity, we need to increase visibility of current diversity.” The tech industry may have a problem with women, but women don’t have a problem with technology.
On the Internet, women are overpowered and devalued. We don’t always think about our online lives in those terms—after all, our days are filled with work to do, friends to keep up with, Netflix to watch. But when anonymous harassers come along—saying they would like to rape us, or cut off our heads, or scrutinize our bodies in public, or shame us for our sexual habits—they serve to remind us in ways both big and small that we can’t be at ease online. It is precisely the banality of Internet harassment, University of Miami law professor Mary Anne Franks has argued, that makes it “both so effective and so harmful, especially as a form of discrimination.”
My memory of men is never lit up and illuminated like my memory of women.
Marguerite Duras, The Lover
If you have lived alone for two decades, it also means you can’t subconsciously (or directly) blame your partner if your professional or creative life hasn’t worked out as well as you had hoped. Whatever career and financial mistakes I’ve made (and there have been some doozies) are mine and mine alone. When you meet your partner at 40, there’s no mental backtracking: “I could have been a senior V.P. by now if we hadn’t moved to Tucson for his job,” or “I could have been a rock star if I hadn’t had to cover everyone’s health insurance.” Most important, I’ve realized I never needed a long boyfriend résumé for the experience.
If she had been nicer to me I would have wanted to know [her]. It was always that way with women I found threatening, that there was some unfulfilled longing to be friends. I didn’t know quite why she threatened me. She was full of life and verve and a refreshing bluntness, and yet I wanted her contained instead of celebrated for these qualities I secretly admired
Rachel Kushner, The Flamethrowers